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Avoid Home Invasion

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

I received an email last week about a home invasion. I’m used to getting a lot of forwarded emails and have become cynical of their authenticity. I’ve found that www.snopes.com is a good place for verifying information. This email stated that this couple was home in bed and heard someone knocking on their door. The husband went to the door, peeked out the window, and saw a man in only his briefs whose wrists and ankles had been bound with duct tape. He called the police without responding to this man’s cries for help, but after awhile, the man slipped out of the tape and ran off. The police were unable to catch him.

First of all, you’ve got to ask how this man could knock on the door if his hands were bound. This homeowner was smart to not answer the door because the man on the porch was a decoy. There was another man there with him to knocked on the door. They were hopeful that this homeowner would open the door so they could barge in and either take what they wanted, or do physical harm to the couple. Thank goodness, all of that was avoided.

Don’t flash large sums of money in public. Don’t give those looking for a score to think you’re it. Be careful walking out of the bank with a money bag, too. Someone could be watching and follow you home.

Keep doors locked. Even when you’re home, keep your doors secure. Many home invasions require little more on the part of the thief or assailant than just walking through the door.

During the day, acknowledge the knock. If a stranger knocks during the day, talk to him through the door. If you don’t answer, the person on the outside may think you’re not there and think it’s safe to go on in. Also, especially when you’re there alone, once you realize you don’t know who’s at your door, holler to an imaginary person so they won’t think you’re alone. Overhearing, “It’s okay, honey. I’ve got it,” leads them to think you’re not alone.

Late at night, don’t acknowledge the knock. Pretend you’re not home. Call 911 if you’re afraid. Late at night, burglars assume you are at home, and they expect someone to let them in so they can do them harm.

Don’t open your door to strangers. If someone appears at your door for any reason wanting to use your phone, offer through the closed door to make the call for him. If he says someone in his car is sick and they need a glass of water, again, through the closed door, offer to call 911 for him. If someone appears in work clothes saying they’ve been sent by their company to do work for you, leave him standing outside until you’ve called that entity and they say they’ve sent this person. Be wary of people you don’t know, whether door-to-door magazine sellers, a young woman holding a baby, or an older woman wanting to borrow a cup of sugar.

Demand identification from anyone saying they’re there on official business – police, firefighters, and utility workers have identification badges and don’t mind showing them to you. Call the police. If the stranger is insistent, refuses to leave, or behaves in a suspicious manner, call the police, explain the situation, and ask them to come sort it out.

It’s a good idea to have a cordless phone or cell phone handy at all times. It would be a good idea to have one on the nightstand when you may be caught totally off guard. Whether you’ve responded through the door or not, call 911 and get to a safe place inside your home. At my recent gun class, they suggested getting behind the headboard of your bed or going into a closet. Go to a room that has a lock on the door. It may not keep them out, but it will buy you some time. Wait for the police. Maybe the crooks will be dumb enough to still be there when they arrive.

This is a busy time for holiday shoppers, but whether you’re out in the crowds or in the comfort of your own home, it is so important to pay attention to what’s going on around you. Your life literally depends on it.

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as Women Loving Life Worldwide.  Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter @piercejam.

Be Prepared for Disasters

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

Disasters are like accidents. They can happen any time, anywhere. You don’t often have much time to respond. In the event of a hurricane, the authorities will tell you to evacuate, but if you have to leave your home in a hurry, what will you do? Where will you go? If you’re thinking that this doesn’t apply to you, think again. A disaster can be anything from an earthquake, flood, tornado, or even an tanker spill on the freeway. Any of these things may cause you to lose your gas, water, electricity or ability to communicate with others.

In 2000, we had flooding in Houston. I ventured across town to attend a friend’s wedding, confident that if I got into trouble I could use my cell phone. What I didn’t realize, until much later, was that the storm had knocked out all of the cell phone towers and there was no service.

Everyone should have an emergency kit. If there are five of you in the house, then you need five kits. Each kit should have the basics. Don’t rely on dad to carry the bulk of the load. You never know when you might be separated from one another. Here are a few things to think about:

1. Have a plan. If you were to have to evacuate, where would you go? You may not all be at home when you get word. Spend some time with your family discussing where you would meet.

2. You may not have to actually leave your home. Maybe you just have loss of power. It’s still important to have enough to survive. What will you eat? If you don’t have power, how will you prepare it? Good idea to have food you can eat right out of the bag or can.

3. Remember that if you have lost power, it’s likely that your entire area is out. Don’t depend on the grocery stores to have enough to supply all of you. Be sure to always have water, food, first aid supplies, clothing and bedding, tools and emergency supplies in your home. Make sure you have the medication you need. Get in the habit of refilling things before you’re completely out.

3. Anticipate having to leave your home. Prepare an emergency kit. Place the items you need in something that’s easy to carry. You might use a backpack or duffle bag. You might use a rolling carry-on suitcase for little children, but remember that you may not even have the option of rolling it. Better to have something you can carry.

4. Keep some cash at home. I save my change, and when I turn it in for dollars, I put that money in my emergency kit. This week, during the aftermath of Katrina, Wal-Mart is allowing those who have cash to buy off the shelf. With no electricity or phone lines, they can’t process credit cards.

5. Store your kit in a convenient place that is known by all family members so you can grab it and run. Keep a smaller version of supplies in your car.

6. Remember to review your kit once a year. Update water, food, and batteries.

7. Keep your cars full of gas for emergency evacuations.

8. Consider scanning old photos to your computer and putting them on a disk. If you’re faced with flooding, the original may be destroyed, but you’ve got a better chance of the disk surviving, and it will also take up less space. Better yet, use a program that allows you to upload your photos to the internet. That way you can access them from any computer.

9. Have a change of clothes and put the items in Ziploc bags or seal them with a Food Saver. I have a pair of knit workout pants, a clean shirt, socks, and a change of underwear in my kit.

10. Include scriptures, paper and pen. Put them in bags to keep them dry (Ziploc or Food Saver)

11. Be sure to have a first aid kit with the basics.

12. Carry three bottles of water. One for each day.

13. Include MREs (meal replacement bars) or packable food. Think about what you’d take if you were going hiking. Include foods for energy. You’re going to need it.

14. Include toiletries. Tooth brush, tooth paste,soap, toilet paper.

15. Small radio with batteries. Check often to make sure batteries are still good. It will be important to know what’s going on if you have no way of communicating with others.

16. Flashlight. There are some available that you can wind up and use. No batteries needed.

If you’ve got a lot of money you can buy a pre-packaged emergency kit, but I prefer to pack my own and put those things that I know I will use. This kit works on the same principle as insurance. You hope you never need it, but just in case you do, you have it.

Make it a fun family night project. Talk to the family about the importance of putting the kits together, and set a budget, if necessary, for purchasing the things you need. Add a few things each time you go to the grocery store, and in no time you’ll have your kit ready to go!

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as Women Loving Life Worldwide.  Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter @piercejam.

There’s More to Preparedness Than Food

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

I read one time that when Frank Sinatra’s son was kidnapped, he couldn’t even call for help from a pay phone because he didn’t have a dime in his pocket. It certainly wasn’t that Frank was broke – he just wasn’t prepared for an emergency that would require dimes! From that day forward, he always carried ten dimes, and when he died, they buried him with ten dimes in his pocket. Just in case. Usually when we think about being prepared, we think of having food, fuel, and any other necessities that would keep us alive while we are displaced, but what if there was a national emergency, or a natural disaster? What if you, your spouse, or one of your children required immediate medical attention? In the midst of a crisis, you wouldn’t have time to rummage through drawers and boxes to find what you need. Even if you have a neatly organized filing cabinet, you can’t strap it to your back and haul it with you. What you need is something portable that you can grab on your way out the door without even thinking about it.

In my front hall closet I have a backpack that I bought on sale for $5 a few years ago. In it, I have a few essentials like a change of clothes, a small first aid kit, a bottle of water, a snack, a waterproof bag (Ziplocs work fine) with paper and pen, my name and address list, some cash – both bills and change, and a workbook that has all of my important personal and financial information recorded in it.

That workbook contains the following:

1. Personal information that would be helpful to someone else if I couldn’t communicate for myself. Vital statistics, professional and military records, a copy of my will and location of the original, a list of people to notify and last, but not least, any funeral instructions. I even have a copy of my marriage license and social security card so I can prove I’m who I say I am! When a disaster strikes and an entire area is in chaos, this information will be important.

2. Financial information that includes account numbers, phone numbers, balances and locations of checking and savings accounts and credit cards; investments, employee savings plans, profit sharing plans, retirement programs, trust accounts, loans receivable and payable, automobiles, insurance – life, health, medical, disability, and medical. If you’ve just lost everything you own, or face the chore of sorting through what’s left and tossing it in the dumpster, you are just not mentally capable of recalling all of the information you will need.

3. A CD with pictures of my home as it stands now and the furnishings inside. I used my digital camera to take photos of these things because it’s safer than using film that needs to be developed. The fewer number of people who know the contents of your house, the better. If you have a video camera, go through the house, open cabinets and drawers, and tell about the items as you’re filming them. Talk about how great grandma’s china came over on a ship from France when she came to America. Tell why that cookie jar means so much to you.

4. A CD with copies of documents and receipts that have been scanned. Information that fills an entire 4-drawer filing cabinet can be held on a CD or two.

5. Photos of my family. We invested in the digital camera a couple of years ago, and as I download photos from the camera to my computer, I put a copy on CD. You never know when you might need a picture to identify someone who is missing from your group.

6. A CD containing a backup of my bank accounts that are managed in MS Money and Quicken. If my computer crashes or is destroyed, I can always find the software to open my accounts. Inside this backup is valuable information for insurance. As I record purchases, I do a general itemization of the receipt, and this would be a great way to report the contents of your home if you had to prove it. Especially helpful on large purchase items, but I also use it for clothing.

7. A CD with a backup of My Documents from my computer. Since I run my business from home, I would basically be out of business if I lost all of my correspondence and other documents.

8. A CD with contact information backed up from Microsoft Outlook. This would allow me to continue to not only conduct business from another location, but would give me every phone number and email address of everyone in my database.

When I go on vacation, I “borrow” these CDs and either stuff them in my suitcase, or leave them at my daughter’s house while I’m away. I don’t want the backup copies of my computer stored in the same location as the computer! What if some emergency strikes while I’m thousands of miles away? Call me paranoid, but it makes me feel better knowing there’s another copy somewhere else.

You just never know when you may have to leave your home in a hurry. Emergencies, like accidents, are never scheduled. They just happen. If you don’t have a preparedness pack in your home, then what are you waiting for? Take some advice from Ol’ Blue Eyes himself and be prepared!

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as Women Loving Life Worldwide.  Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter @piercejam.

Slideshow of Life

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

Ever notice that when a prominent person dies the media has immediate coverage on that person’s life?
I’m sure each network has a team of people working on the lives of prominent people – world leaders, celebrities, and even local officials – just so they’ll be prepared when the time comes.

 

A good friend of mine, Ed, recently lost his father. When he found out my mother was dying, he told me to start gathering pictures so I could put a slide show together. That was the best piece of advice anyone gave me! He told me I could download the program for f*ree here:

 

http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/using/digitalphotography/photostory/default.mspx

 

I got to work immediately because I didn’t know how much time I had. Fortunately, I ended up with about four weeks to accomplish the task. Here’s what I did:

 

*Downloaded the software. I found it very simple to use. Of course, I’m one of those people who only reads directions if I can’t figure it out on my own. This was my kind of software!

 

* Started looking through my own digital files for pictures I had taken over the past 4-5 years. This was pretty simple. It was just a matter of importing the pictures into the program.

 

* Asked other family members to email me with any photos they had. My cousin and a niece were very helpful in coming up with pictures I had never seen before.

 

* Went through photo albums and scanned photos. This was the part that took the most time because once the photo was scanned, I had to crop. I was sure glad I got started early on this part!

 

Before it was over, I had about 15 minutes of video which included about 200 photographs. Photos included individual pictures of Mom, along with pictures of her with her children, grandchildren, and siblings.

 

As I worked on this project, I can’t tell you how many times I thought about how my mother would have LOVED looking at a slide show like this of her life! Why in the world hadn’t I prepared something like this BEFORE the end of her life?

 

Now, here I was, seeing pictures of my mother that were new to me. I wanted answers about some of them. Where was it taken? What do you remember about that day? How old were you?

 

As I imported the pictures, I included whatever information I could come up with on my own. Names of people in the photo, approximate year, clever comments about various poses. She was a real beauty of movie star quality!

 

Since my mother was a free spirit from Tennessee, I wanted to use Elvis’s rendition of “I Did It My Way,” to go along with the 200 pictures I had gathered. For a fee of $19.95, I was able to do that, but by the time I figured all that out, it was too late. Paying this extra money also gave me the ability to burn a copy of the slideshow as a DVD, but once I got back home from the funeral, it didn’t seem to matter.

 

I’ll have to say that the slideshow was one of the “hits” for the folks back home in Tennessee. We all enjoyed watching my mother’s life flash before us because it brought back memories of much happier times in our lives.

 

I know there are many different programs out there to help you tell the story of your family. It doesn’t matter which program you use, or how much money you want to spend.

 

After we got home, I discovered another way of presenting these photos that would allow me to include the music I wanted at no extra cost. www.onetruemedia.com is a very simple program to use, and since it’s online, you don’t have to download anything. As long as you have internet access to show it, it’s great! One of the great features to this one is that you can send a link to family and friends and they can watch it anytime they want.

 

I should put a warning label on this project idea, though! Once you get started, it’s addictive. Realize that you’re probably not going to gather every picture ever taken of that person, and you don’t need five different poses of the same thing (unless they’re all just adorable in their own way!). Just start with what you’ve got, and go from there. You can always add or delete photos whenever you want.

 

Just imagine the possibilities.

 

*What a great way to review and share your vacation photos!

 

*What a great gift for someone! Start now and give them the DVD for birthdays and Christmas.

 

* What a great way to share with family that’s not close by.

 

I’m thinking about making individual slide shows for everyone in my family!

 

Wouldn’t the kids or grandkids love watching a video of themselves?

 

Gosh, who wouldn’t love looking at pictures of themselves and their loved ones!

 

Share the memories.

 

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as Women Loving Life Worldwide.  Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter @piercejam.

So Much Cooler Online

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

I’m a bit of a country music listener, and the first time I heard Brad Paisley singing, “So Much Cooler Online,” it caught my attention. What he’s singing about is how you can represent yourself as anyone you want to be online, and you’re safe as long as the other person never actually meets you. In my case, I think I’m so much cooler when I order online! If you’re a close friend or relative, you know that I hate shopping about as much as I hate ironing. Because of that, I’ve learned how to deal with bringing things into my home in this way:

1. I tell my daughter that I need it. She’s a wonder shopper and should actually charge for her services as a personal assistant. All I have to do is tell her I’m looking for something and she’ll find it. Not only will she find it, but she’ll find it on clearance.

2. I order it online. I figure that even if I have to pay full retail price for it, I am saving money by not leaving the house to buy it. By ordering from the comfort of home, I can

a. Order 24/7.

b. Avoid getting dressed to face the public. I can order in my pjs if I’m still awake at 2 am.

c. Save money on gas by not driving my gas hog to the mall

d. Save my frustration level by looking through racks or piles of things to find what I want.

e. Save even more of my sanity by not having to stand in line

f. Save money because I’m not doing any impulse shopping.

3. My third option is to stock up when I am shopping, whether it’s out in person, or online.

It seems like I’ve been hit hard this year with baby showers, bridal showers, and even wedding receptions. With each one, you get a little card that tells you where the expectant mother or bride has registered. At least by registering, they tell you exactly what you want and you can’t really make a wrong decision. In my case, though, that still means I will probably have to actually drive to the store. If I received the invitation a little earlier, I might be able to order the item online, but then I wouldn’t be able to walk through the door with a gift in my hands. I shudder to think about how humiliated I might feel if people thoughtI came to their party without a gift!

So here’s what I do. I have a standard gift for every occasion.

Here’s what you can expect if you know me and plan to get married anytime soon. It’s a first aid kit. This isn’t your everyday Walgreens first aid kit. This is a $75 first aid kit complete with all the antibacterial, pain relieving stuff you’d ever need. It also has all the bandaids, bandages, tweezers, scissors, and even compression items you want. It comes in an adorable Army green bag with a red cross on the outside. Perfect for use at home, or throwing in your car before you head out on your vacation or trip to the beach.

I found this first aid kit through a company where I shop online every month. I ordered one for myself, and liked it so much that I bought a few more. Just for gift giving!

Now, if you graduate from college, or just invite me to your wedding reception, I am going to give you the Dave Ramsey, “Total Money Makeover” book! This hardcopy book sells for $24.95 at your favorite bookstore, but I found a source for the book where I only have to pay $10. I ordered one for me, loved it so much that I went back and ordered three more copies. What young person doesn’t need some guidance on how to avoid going into debt? What old person can’t use advice on how to get out of debt? This is one of my favorite gifts.

What if you’re pregnant or just had a new baby? My standard baby gift is baby products that are safer than what Johnson & Johnson has to offer. If you believe J&J’s Baby Shampoo is the best, then you don’t know that it contains a form of formaldehyde. I’m always on the lookout for closeouts on quilted bags or children’s backpacks. When I find them (or I should admit that when my daughter, the shopper, finds them!) she’ll buy me 2-3 of them. I keep extras of these products on hand, and when it’s time for yet another baby shower, I will wrap each item individually in tissue paper, stuff it in the bag, add extra tissue paper if needed, throw in a few flyers about household chemicals, or saving our children from poisons, and I’m good to go. What mother wouldn’t want the BEST for her child?

As you’re doing your shopping this month, think outside your usual needs. Check your calendar. Any weddings, showers, birthdays, anniversaries in your future?

Most of my female friends and I have agreed not to exchange gifts for birthdays or Christmas, but occasionally I just feel like taking a little gift when we meet. Some of my favorite gifts for my female friends include candles (without lead wicks) or body-friendly body lotions. It makes for such an easy, inexpensive gift when you just tie a ribbon around the neck of the bottle or around the box. They’re pretty enough that you don’t even need a bag.

You can simplify your life if you find those gifts that just scream your name. For someone who counsels people about being prepared, the first aid kit really ties in well. What kind of products do people associate with you, or your personality?

I went to about nine baby showers earlier this year. Thank goodness that epidemic is one that I’m too old to participate in! Most of the people who were at one shower were at all of them. It became a joke when each expectant mother opened the same thing from me at their shower. I like to think that I have a sense of humor, and in fact, I was usually the one saying, “Now I know this isn’t any big surprise to you, but I brought the SAFE baby stuff.”

I had to smile, because the joke was really on them. While they were all out shopping and trying to make decisions about each baby, all I had to do was put my standard gift bag together. At one time I had about five bags all made up and ready to go. Instead of buying baby cards, I bought a huge box of blank note cards. I individualized each one and stuck it in the proper bag. When it was time for the shower, all I had to do was pick up the bag and go – checking, of course, to make sure I had the right bag for the right mother!

So what can you do to be better prepared? Figure out a way to eliminate all the decisions in gift buying. Stay out of the stores. Avoid the heat. You’ll be so much cooler online!

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as Women Loving Life Worldwide.  Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter @piercejam.

Don’t Let the Courts Decide

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

Terri Schiavo’s name has become a household word, and if her parents lose their appeal to reinsert the feeding tube, Terri’s battle will be over. That doesn’t mean that the fight will be over. There needs to be new legislation that protects those who cannot act for themselves, and are not being kept alive by life support. People like Terri who never put their wishes in writing. In the meantime, there is something you can do for yourself and your loved ones. Complete and sign these documents and have them witnessed by two people who are not related to you, or who will not benefit in any way from your death. Copies can be obtained at your nearest hospital, or you can find them online by doing a search for these documents for your state.

  • Advance Directive
  • Medical Power of Attorney
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Emerson Publications has a book that is designed to guide you through the process of recording vital information. All They’ll Need to Know is a 32-page booklet filled with forms that simplify the process of writing down not only personal information (funeral instructions, who to contact, distribution of personal effects), but financial information that will help the family when you can no longer act for yourself. It is a resource handbook that, once completed, will enable family members to make confident decisions according to your wishes. It will help relieve some of the stress in making decisions and will help save money because your survivors won’t make irrational decisions at the time of need.

All They’ll Need to Know provides forms for vital statistics, professional and military records, funeral instructions, names of those to notify, as well as financial information regarding checking and savings accounts, location and contents of safe deposit box, certificates of deposit, stocks, bonds and mutual funds, savings plans, retirement programs, trust accounts, real estate, loans payable and receivable, insurance, and even information on your automobiles and credit cards.

At 32 pages, this 8 ½ by 11-inch booklet is filled with forms that will help individuals find the documents they need to fill in the blanks. Interested individuals can view more information on their website at www.emersonpublications.com/atntk.htm. Suitable for couples so you only need one copy per household.

 

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as WomenLovingLifeWorldwide.com.   Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter  @piercejam.

Establish an Emergency Fund

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

I recently read Paul Martinelli’s loving story about trying to get to his grandmother, Bella, before she died. He wanted so badly to hold her hand one more time and to tell her he loved her. He tried making travel arrangements to leave immediately, but couldn’t afford the $600 ticket. He had to wait three days to get a supersaver ticket, and when he finally got there, his dear Bella had already passed away. He was too late because he didn’t have the money to get to her in time. He decided at that point that he would never allow himself to sink so low again. He would never be in the position that he couldn’t afford to be close to his family if he needed or wanted to be.

How helpless would you feel if you needed to be there for someone you love, and money was the only thing holding you back?

What if this was the only chance you were given?

What can you do to make sure you’re never caught in this predicament?

Establish an emergency fund! At the very least, have a credit card that isn’t maxed out so you can use it if you have to. In Dave Ramsey’s, “Total Money Makeover,” he teaches the reasons why you should not only get rid of your credit cards, but get rid of the balances. Once you do that, he teaches the importance of the emergency fund. If you have a baby emergency fund of about $1,000, then you won’t ever have to use the credit cards again.

Here’s why an emergency fund is so important. There are just some things you can’t plan for, and the older you get, the more surprises come your way. Believe me. These are just a few that I’ve experienced.

Last week we got a family email telling us that my husband’s cousin had gallbladder cancer. A few days later I got an update saying that the doctors were giving him three to six months to live, but agreed there was nothing they could do for him. They sent him home to die and the family started to gather from all over the country. Today’s update told me that David had passed away this morning. With today’s gas prices, it could be a real hardship for some to even drive to the funeral. It would take some serious calculating to see if it would be less expensive to fly or drive, and if you have to rent a car when you get there, that just adds to the cost.

Sometimes you have some advance warning, and sometimes you don’t. Last year when we were told my mother wouldn’t live another week or two, there were grandkids in other states who wanted to see her one last time.

My niece called the airline to make a reservation. The usual fare of a couple of hundred dollars more than doubled on such short notice. When she told them that she needed to make this trip because her grandmother was dying, they told her about the bereavement fare. They said if she brought back the documentation proving that her grandmother was actually dying, they would refund part of her fare. She bought the ticket, and after going through the hassle of getting what she needed for this “discount”, I think she only got about fifty dollars back. The bereavement fare is a joke. Don’t ever believe that these companies really feel sorry for you. The agent might, but she has to follow company policy, and with so many airlines filing bankruptcy, they’re out to get all they can.

When our friend, Mark, was killed recently on his motorcycle, all the members of his family were en route for a family reunion that weekend. Unfortunately, he was killed before they got there, but his widow found great comfort in being surrounded by their family. But as soon as they all gathered in Houston, they had to start making arrangements to either drive or fly to Kansas. Mark was born in Kansas, grew up there, and that’s where he wanted to be buried. While many of them had probably used credit cards to get to Houston, now they had additional charges to get to Kansas.

Interesting how the place you call “home” as a child is where most people want to be laid to rest when they go back “home.”

My mother had prepaid for her funeral arrangements in Tennessee ten years before her death. She was born in Tennessee, spent a great deal of her life there, and wanted to be buried on the piece of land her family had donated as a cemetery. While my sister had flown to Houston in Mom’s last days to be with her, she now had to go back home, gather her family, and then make the drive to Tennessee. At the same time, we were making our drive from Houston. My sister’s family and mine all met at an off-season lodge with a friendly, family atmosphere. We were all totally surprised when they did give us a discount at our departure. Of course this was in a town of only a few hundred people where everyone knew everyone. They truly were sorry for our loss.

People just don’t grow up and stay in their own hometown anymore, but for some reason we want or need to go back there when this life is over. There’s something comforting about going home, wherever that home is. It’s important to respect their wishes, but it can sure wreak havoc on your time, your bank account, and your emotions if you’re trying to get from Point A to Point B in a short amount of time.

You will still have to deal with emotions when you’re dealing with the loss of someone you love, but if you get that emergency fund started, at least you have the option of being where you need to be.

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as WomenLovingLifeWorldwide.com.   Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter  @piercejam.

It Can Happen to You

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

You see it every day on the news. You get up and turn the tv on in the morning and learn that while you were sleeping, others were involved in accidents that caused their death. As one friend put it, “You watch the news and think that somehow your family is protected from these tragedies. After all, these people don’t live in your neighborhood. They come from a different social class. They were in the wrong place at the wrong time.” It wasn’t until his 21 year-old sister was killed in a skiing accident that he realized that all of his justifications were wrong. Your family most certainly can be affected.

Donna had asked her husband to write some things down for her before his flight to the Middle East several years ago. He scratched some things out on the back of an envelope and told her she was being silly. He returned from that trip, but a few short months later was killed by a drunk driver.

At least Donna had something to start with, but she wasn’t prepared for all of the questions the funeral home fired at her. She knew what bank accounts they had, and had helped with paying the bills over the years, but what about funeral arrangements? Did he want to be buried in Louisiana with his parents, or here in Texas where she and her family lived? Cremation or burial? What about the obituary for the newspaper? Did she have all of the accurate information they needed to write it?

Her emotions were raw as she tried to deal with the reality of it all. Was this all just a bad dream that would soon end? She just wanted to go home and grieve, but there were too many things to think about.

* How long will it take to settle the estate? * Will I have enough cash to live on until then? * Will the insurance come before they foreclose on the house? * Where is the real copy of the will? * How can I prove stock ownership? * Do I know about all bank accounts and insurance policies? * How do I collect social security? * Whose advice can I trust?

If you don’t know the answers to these questions, now is a good time for you to start thinking about them. What are some things you can do to be better prepared for these situations?

1. Talk to your spouse (and don’t forget your parents) and explain the importance of working together to put this information together now. Accidents aren’t something we schedule!

2. Gather important papers. Include birth certificates, pre-paid funeral arrangements, military records, current bank and credit card statements, wills, safe deposit information (bank, box number, authorized signers, contents), employment information – insurance, savings plans, retirement accounts, etc., savings account statements, stock certificates, loan agreements, automobile titles, health and life insurance.

3. Discuss the disposition of personal items. This will help avoid family feuds when it comes time to decide who should get grandfather’s watch or mother’s pearls.

4. Make copies of these documents and file the originals in a safe place. A fireproof safe at home is recommended so you’ll have access to them on the weekend. You might even consider scanning them and saving them to a CD.

5. Keep the information up to date. Decide to go through these records at least annually to make sure the information hasn’t changed. Take this opportunity to discard outdated information.

6. Make sure someone in your family, and a trusted family friend, knows where this information is stored so it can be retrieved at a moment’s notice. The fireproof box is a good place to keep it along with your original documents, but be sure to put it back each time you update the information.

You are doing your family a disservice if you don’t prepare this information for them while you’re able. It doesn’t make sense to provide for them throughout your life, only to leave them struggling when they need your guidance more than ever.

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as WomenLovingLifeWorldwide.com.   Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter  @piercejam.

Live for Today; Plan for Tomorrow

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

Terri Schiavo has not died without a purpose. Despite the fact that she has been unable to feed herself or even swallow for the past fifteen years, she has made an impact on our lives. She has left an impression on our hearts. She has helped us realize how important it is to have the proper documentation in place so we can speak for ourselves. Because of the publicity, as Americans we are finally taking care of matters that we’ve procrastinated way too long. Terri’s battle may be over, but there is much more that needs to be done to assure that our rights are protected. We need legislation that works for us instead of against us when someone determines that we have nothing to contribute to the world.

In the meantime, there are steps you can take to protect yourself and your loved ones. Obtain an Advance Directive from your local hospital, or find it online through the U. S. Living Will Registry. There isn’t a generic form that applies in all 50 states, but by following this link, you will find your state, and can print out the forms you need.

http://www.uslivingwillregistry.com/forms.shtm

While this Advance Directive, or Living Will, will tell your family and medical professionals what you do or don’t want them to do to sustain life, there is much more that you can do to alleviate the strain on your family when death occurs.

It’s time to get your affairs in order.

1. Gather your documents 2. Update your will 3. Make sure your assets are titled correctly 4. Make sure beneficiaries are current 5. Have a financial power of attorney 6. Examine life insurance needs 7. Let others know what you’d want them to do 8. Provide contact information 9. Record your information 10. Talk to your loved ones.

If you think this sounds like an overwhelming project, you’re absolutely right; especially if you’re starting with a blank piece of paper. But Emerson Publications offers a wonderful resource with their 32-page book, “All They’ll Need to Know.” It is filled with forms that help remind you to include items that you may not think of if you’re starting from scratch.

All They’ll Need to Know provides forms for vital statistics, professional and military records, funeral instructions, names of those to notify, as well as financial information regarding checking and savings accounts, location and contents of safe deposit box, certificates of deposit, stocks, bonds and mutual funds, savings plans, retirement programs, trust accounts, real estate, loans payable and receivable, insurance, and even information on your automobiles and credit cards. It may only be 32 pages, but it’s packed with information.

It will be a relief to you once you know you’ve got these details in writing. It will be invaluable to your family when the time comes for them to make these arrangements. It will save money for your estate because your family won’t be making irrational decisions while they’re in shock. They will be acting in accordance with your wishes because you will have left them instructions for what you want them to do.

All They’ll Need to Know is suitable for couples, so you only need one per household. Please visit the website, www.emersonpublications.com for more information.

Don’t put this off another day. You just don’t know what tomorrow might bring.

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as WomenLovingLifeWorldwide.com.   Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter  @piercejam.

Preserve and Prepare

Joyce Pierce April 23rd, 2009

Have you ever had to leave your home in a hurry because of a natural disaster? You may think it will never happen to you, but that’s what I thought, too, until it came just a little too close to home.

I live in Houston, Texas, and like many of you, in August 2005 we stayed glued to the television for days watching the devastation caused by Hurricane Katrina along the gulf coast. Little did we know that we would soon be facing our own problems with Hurricane Rita. My business with Emerson Publications has always been to help people record personal and financial information so that family members would know what to do in their absence. Watching people wading through contaminated water with little or nothing on their backs made me realize how important it is to have a record of important documents for yourself and not just for loved ones in the event of your death. One thing you never know is when you may have an emergency that requires you to leave your home because of hurricane, tornado, flood, or fire.

It’s important for every family to have an evacuation plan, and also to have the supplies necessary to sustain and protect you if you’re forced to leave your home. FEMA has an excellent website at www.ready.gov to help you know what you should have to prepare for emergencies and also what you’ll need to claim your losses.

In our home, I have a backpack that I use for a 72 hour kit, and it was never quite as important to me as in the days prior to Hurricane Rita. In it, I have enough food to sustain life for three days. I have a change of clothes and a survival book. I have bottled water, vitamins, and medications. I have enough cash to get by if the whole town loses electricity and ATMs don’t work. Another valuable lesson from living through this crisis is that I don’t let the gas tank on my car go past the half full mark in case I do have to leave the city.

These are the things I would need to keep me alive, or at least make the evacuation less uncomfortable, but what I want to talk about today is how to preserve your valuable paperwork without having to drag, haul, or carry them. You want to make sure you have everything you need to simplify filing insurance claims and getting the help you need. You also want to preserve those things that are precious to you. Once you’ve listened to this call, you’ll see that these things I’m going to mention are things that you need to start working on now, so that they are ready at a moment’s notice. I will show you how your digital camera, your scanner, and a memory stick can become invaluable in preserving your paperwork.

Photographs – If you talk to anyone who has suffered the effects of a fire, they will tell you that the one thing they wish they could have saved is their pictures. Photographs are a way of preserving memories and allowing us to go back in time. Once they’re lost, there’s never really a way to go back and capture them in your mind. A few years ago I took all of my photo albums, tore them apart, and made an album for each of my three children. Before I turned the albums over to them, I scanned the photos that meant the most to me, and saved them on my computer. I’ve saved some of them on CD, but in preparation for Hurricane Rita, I uploaded every one of those photos, in addition to digital photos stored on my computer, to www.kodakgallery.com There are other places online to store photos, such as www.snapfish.com . If you have a digital camera, your software probably includes a site for storing your pictures.

Insurance — In order to file a claim for property that was lost, you have to prove that you owned it. My insurance man suggested taking photos of everything and giving them to him to preserve in a file, but what if HIS office were destroyed? I went through our home, opened every drawer and cabinet, and took photos, and then uploaded them to the same website with kodakgallery. I emailed the link for the album to each of my three children — two of whom live in other states — and told them where they could find all this information if we were hurt, missing, or dead. If you were to lose everything, you could probably remember the big pieces of furniture, but it could take years before you’d remember your grandmother’s watch that was left lying in a dresser drawer, or the books and CDs that are on your bookcase. Taking pictures provides proof that they were in your home. Digital cameras are a wonderful resource. If you don’t have one, at least borrow one and store the information on your own memory card.

Important Papers — If you have receipts for items you’ve purchased, or even a journal where you record purchases, consider scanning them. This is extra documentation to prove ownership AND will provide the original cost. Check with your insurance man and make sure you have replaceable cost insurance so that when you go to replace that kitchen table that you bought in 1960 for $100, you’ll be able to buy one at today’s prices.

In trying to preserve my legal documents and other paperwork that is impossible to replace, my scanner became a valuable tool for me. I scanned our wills, our deed to the house, health insurance papers, retirement paperwork, social security cards, birth certificates, and marriage certificate, just to name a few. You may recall that before people were allowed to re-enter their homes in hurricane areas, people had to provide proof that they owned the home. With thousands of homeless people looking for housing, it was important that no one else was given access to your home.

Memory Sticks. Sometimes people call these “thumb drives,” because some of them are about the size of your thumb. They plug right into the USB port of your computer. I have one that holds 4 GB of information and can backup loads of photos and documents.. They’re more reliable than CDs and you generally don’t need to install anything to use it in another computer. I used this stick to back up my financial information from MS Money and my family history files. In addition to preserving all of these things on the internet, I also backed up what I could on my memory stick. That way I had a backup for the backup.

As I worked to gather my information, I spent several days just going through files and thinking of paperwork that would be important to prove my identity. I also took my own personal copy of my book, All They’ll Need to Know, which contained all of the information my family would need if I didn’t survive. It would tell them where to locate the will and how to plan my funeral. It would also give them the names of people to contact. Everything was scanned, backed up or uploaded. Then, I took all of the original documents and sealed them in plastic with my Food Saver, and took them to the bank to place in my safe deposit box. A few years ago when Houston was flooded from Tropical Storm Allison, I learned how important it is to waterproof my documents. I had items in a safe deposit box that was in the underground area of my bank. When flood waters rushed through the tunnels of downtown Houston, all of those safe deposit boxes were filled with contaminated water. Fortunately, my paperwork was protected, but others were not so fortunate. One man had stored his prized baseball card in his safe deposit box and it was now worthless. If you don’t have a Food Saver, you can at least use Ziploc bags.

If time allows, consider going through your collection of letters and cards. I had baptismal records and other things I wanted to preserve. I scanned them and left them in my home, but at least I knew that if they were destroyed, I at least had copies containing dates and numbers.

The ideas I have given you today are pretty general because of the amount of time allowed on this call. I’d invite you to visit my website at www.emersonpublications.com and review the information in my blog about our own pending evacuation. Living through it was a real learning experience for me, and I hope it serves as a warning to everyone who reads it. You can see why I encourage you to start on this project now. Don’t wait until you’re only left with a minute or two to run out of your house.

The old saying, “A stitch in time saves nine,” really applies here. If you take the time to gather and preserve this information now, it will save you months, and possibly years of trying to recreate the information and make claim on what’s rightfully yours. Learn from the experiences of others. Prepare yourself and your household now. I hope and pray that this is an exercise you’ll never need to use, but like an insurance policy, you’re sure glad to have it if you need it!

Joyce Moseley Pierce is a contributing author to the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.  She’s the creator of All They’ll Need to Know and owner of Emerson Publications.  She’s the Family Preparedness Expert for Ideamarketers.com as well as WomenLovingLifeWorldwide.com.   Visit www.emersonpublications.com or www.preparedineveryway.com to learn more.  Follow Joyce on Twitter  @piercejam.

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